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You know, we all have that one person who we just really can't stand.
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You know, someone who tends to get under our skin
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because they always seem to know exactly what to say.
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And oftentimes it's the truth that we need to hear.
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And whether we like it or not, we all need that person who tells us about ourselves
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and keeps us honest and humble.
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And truthfully, that person isn't always our friend either.
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Sometimes it's a good thing that they aren't our friend.
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Well, on today's episode, we're looking at someone who came really
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just to wreak havoc and cause war, but ended up saving the day in the end.
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And that character is Aftlecrafter's guard dog, Hughes.
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Hey, what's going on, guys?
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My name is Nate, and you're listening to the Otaku Liberation,
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a show where we help you break free from the chains that are holding you back
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in your life by connecting some biblical principles with themes from your favorite anime.
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And without further ado, let's get into it.
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So before I start deep diving into Hughes, the verse I want to go over today
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is Proverbs, Chapter 16, Verse 7, and it says,
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when a person's ways please the Lord, he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.
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And I know it's kind of straightforward, but what it's really saying is
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when we're walking in our purpose and the purpose that God's called us to fulfill,
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then he'll make it so even our enemies will essentially walk in step with us, right?
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Whether it's intentional or not in their regard.
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And essentially, like no matter what they do, God will always find a way to basically
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make it out for your benefit because you are being obedient and following what He's designed you to do.
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And I feel like Hughes is a perfect example for that in regards to World Trigger
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because he first showed up, he's part of the invading force from Aftercrateur.
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So Aftercrateur is a neighboring world to Earth, and they invaded Earth in search of what they call baby birds.
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And essentially, you're just people who have a high trion amount
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because they needed them to essentially power their own triggers and things like that on their own planet.
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So they weren't going to use their own people, they just could have come to Earth and just take our people, right?
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And Hughes was one of the, I don't think he was so much of a general, but he was high up, right?
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He was a high enough combatant where they could let him go off and do his own thing.
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And so that's initially how he came to Earth.
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Now, of course, during that whole invasion, now that he lost, he went against Jinn,
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who's again the strongest guy on the show, realistically.
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And after that, he became a prisoner of war.
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But in order to...
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Yeah, let me back up. So after he became a prisoner of war, right, Hughes and then the main character Osamu,
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their goals happened to align with each other. Hughes wants to go back home,
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and Osamu wants to go on the away mission to search for his mentor, right?
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And the best shot that he had of doing that was asking Hughes to join his team.
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Because like I covered in pretty much all of their previous episodes,
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is that the main issue with Osamu's squad is that Yuma is the only one who can score points.
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He's the only one that is honestly a real threat.
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Because Chika, sure, her power is insane.
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She can level the map if she wanted to, but she can't take out people, but she can't shoot people.
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And that is a detriment in mock battles and the real battles, right?
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If you can't take out the enemy, then you're essentially failing your job as an agent, as a soldier, rather.
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And so because of that, she can't shoot people, she can't score points on her own.
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Osamu, like we've covered multiple times before, he's not cut out for that.
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He's not a combatant at all, and he gets taken out first almost every time.
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So that just leaves Yuma as the main threat.
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But of course, when everyone knows that, it becomes really easy to, you know, be a hindrance to him.
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And despite their recent successes with the mock battles and their climbing their way up in the ranks,
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it became a glaring weakness that if you take out either Osamu or Chika before Yuma,
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then the whole thing's going to go down because their new strategy needs all three members to be intact.
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They take out one piece and the whole thing crumbles.
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And the best way they needed to counteract that was to get a fourth person,
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to get somebody else who can rival Yuma's skill level in order to balance out the team composition.
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So now the enemy can't just focus down one person, they have to split their attention.
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And that person was Hughes.
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And they think he was the best option at the time because they've seen what he can do in real life battle.
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And he wasn't already part of a squad because he's not even from Earth.
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And so that's kind of the back story of how he joined their squad, right?
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And the reason why I chose Hughes for this episode and the reason why I titled this episode,
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you know, the foils of war, right?
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You know what a character foil is? It's somebody who you essentially, I don't want to say contradict,
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I don't think that's the right word for it, but essentially someone who is almost like the exact opposite
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of whatever character you're comparing them to, right?
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And the reason I chose Hughes, because Hughes is kind of like that for Osamu,
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at least in my analysis, the way I was looking at it,
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because Hughes is very confident in his skills and prowess and what he does,
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he knows what he can do, he can do it well.
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But he's also, he's not above taking orders from people, right?
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Taking orders from people that he respects and he deems as worthy.
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And the reason I bring that up is because the first issue that they had was Hughes following Osamu's orders,
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and that's because he doesn't fully respect them.
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And he just straight up told Osamu to his face, like, if Osamu gives an order that Hughes doesn't agree with,
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that he's just not going to do it, he's going to do what he wants to do.
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So that was the caveat. And for Osamu, that was something he had to take into consideration,
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because up until this point, both Yuma and Chika just did whatever he said because they trusted him that much.
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They've built up that relationship with him, they know he's capable of, and they trust his judgment.
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Hughes, on the other hand, has not.
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He's seen the hesitation in Osamu's decision-making sometimes,
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where he'll put his team above the mission, and from Hughes' standpoint, that's not always the best option to take.
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So what I would like to take note of is that in life, not everyone's going to agree with us, and they don't have to.
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We all have our own opinions, we all have our own minds, we all have our own thoughts about certain situations,
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certain things that are going on, so we don't all have to be on the same page.
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And I think, especially in today's world, the way things are now, it's almost taboo to have a different opinion about something.
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If you don't agree with the hive mind, and you're outcasted and just thrown aside,
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and sometimes it's not even about you attacking their opinion, it's not even about that, it's just you having a different one.
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We can't have different opinions anymore without it being an attack on us.
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We feel personally offended, personally attacked by someone not liking the clothes I wear, or whatever the case may be, something like that.
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And honestly, it's all about how we respond to those situations.
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How do we respond to somebody challenging our, quote-unquote, authority on something?
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And I find it's the hardest whenever you've been doing something for a long time, whether it's a certain skill,
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you've been at a job, something that you've already established, that you've been established at,
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and you see yourself as a quote-unquote expert in that area.
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Now, again, the one thing, the fourth thing to know is that there's always somebody out there better than you, no matter what.
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No matter how good you are, no matter how good you may think you are, no matter how awesome you think you are,
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there's always going to be somebody out there that's better than you at something.
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And once you accept that, then that's when your ego doesn't get bruised as easily, because you already know in your mind.
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I'm grinding, I'm working hard, I'm working hard to perfect my craft as much as possible,
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but there's also X amount of people out there doing the same thing, right?
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They're doing better than me because they have a knack for it, right?
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They don't have to work as hard, but they do.
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And because they have the natural talent to back it up, then of course they're going to be ahead of me, right?
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And that's okay. That's okay.
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Because honestly, that gives you something to aim for, to aim towards, right?
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Because I don't want you to get discouraged just because somebody is better at you, somebody disagrees with you,
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somebody may not like the way you are, right?
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Because again, we as people are very fickle.
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We turn on each other at the drop of a dime.
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And it's sad to say, but that's the truth of it.
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So if we get hung up on every little thing, on every little thing somebody may say or may do to us,
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then you're always going to be upset. You're always going to be just unmotivated, always going to be distraught, right?
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And I think really, I just, again, I just kind of want us all to see things for what they are, right?
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See the world for what it is right now and just try to make it better, right?
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Try to make it, you strive to make yourself better so you can make the world better, right?
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Because again, we have to be the change that we want to see.
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And part of that change, part of that getting better is knowing when to take criticism,
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knowing when to take adversity and then respond to it.
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You know, you don't have to be in kind, like you don't have to attack back at them, but really make sure you hear them.
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It's one of these things all the time when you're talking to somebody and it's more like you're talking at them versus with them.
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And they're just like, yep, yep, uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh.
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And they're saying all that. They're not really listening to you.
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They're hearing the sound coming from your mouth, but in all actuality, they're just waiting for you to finish
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so they can just rebuttal everything you just said.
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They didn't hear any hear a word or sorry, they didn't listen to a thing you said.
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They heard you, but they didn't listen.
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And, you know, I've had a couple of conversations like that before with some people and this is like, you know, it's like, why bother, right?
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Why bother? But you do it.
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You know, you I want you to not be that person.
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I want you to listen, listen to the opposition, listen to the arguments that are being said.
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And again, they don't have to be an argument.
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Just have a conversation.
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You don't have to be up in arms about everything.
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It's the same goes for the other person.
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I understand some topics are touchy, people get heated, but at the end of the day, you know, we don't get better if we're not challenged.
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And that's pretty much all it is.
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So with Hughes being there, Hughes not really wanting to follow Osama's orders.
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Now, for me, when I first saw this, you know, when I first watched the anime, first read the manga, things like that,
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on the first saw it with Hughes, I thought he's just going to be completely disobedient, just not want to listen to him.
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For my Pokemon fans out there, it's like when you get traded a high level Pokemon, but you don't have enough badges to command it.
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So sometimes he just doesn't listen.
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I thought it was going to be like that with Hughes, but it actually didn't go that way.
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It was in actually Hughes perfectly demonstrates what I was just talking about.
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Osama gave an order to to try to protect Chika instead of taking out the enemy.
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And that's because her shot exposed her position to the enemy, but the enemy were hiding, so they didn't know where they were.
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And they weren't sure they want to go after her to take her out of the equation,
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or they was just going to try to sneak attack Hughes and Yuma who were in another location.
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And initially Hughes and Yuma were just going to tag team and search for the enemy and then they take them out one by one.
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But Osama didn't want to take the risk of leaving Chika by herself,
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because at that time she still can shoot people so she couldn't defend herself.
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So he wanted Hughes and Yuma to retreat to go protect her.
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And Hughes was like, no, that doesn't make any sense.
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We essentially have this game in the bag, let's finish this mission, they're probably just going to bluff us anyway.
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And during that time, Yuma stepped in and said, look, I'll go cover Chika while Hughes finished looking for him.
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And Hughes just said, OK, we'll do that.
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And it's that right there, right?
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They had two different viewpoints on what they should do, right?
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And he wasn't dismissing Osama's plan completely.
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He understood where he was coming from, but he gave his opinion in why that was a bad idea, why this should work instead.
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And then when a compromise was offered up, he didn't argue it, he didn't back down because it wasn't his idea.
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He just said, OK, let's deal with that just to see how this plays out instead.
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That's the type of mindset I want us all to have.
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It may not be your plan, it may not be your idea, but just have an open mind.
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Be open enough to take criticism, take up compromise.
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And compromising is a skill that we all need to learn, right?
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Because again, relationships are hard.
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Relationships where people are hard because you got your own ideas, your own thoughts, your own backgrounds, all this come meshing together.
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And I'm talking about all relationships, right?
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Not just romantic ones, just in general, whether it's your sibling, your parents, your children, your coworker, your neighbor.
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Anytime you're dealing with another person, it's a complicated thing, especially when you know them for a long enough time, right?
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And so in that moment, again, Hughes kind of showed the thing that I want us all to kind of model, say, OK, sure, it's not what I initially thought.
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It's not what I wanted to go with, but this is good enough for right now.
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Let's just go ahead and get this done.
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At the end of the day, we're trying to accomplish the same goal.
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And that goal is, again, is going on the away mission because when Hughes joined the team, he made a promise to Osama and the group that he was going to get them on that away mission no matter what.
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So after he joined the team, every action that he took in the subsequent rounds of the rank wars, of the mock battles and things like that was so he can help them score points to get on the away mission.
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And of course, he has his own ambition for going to, right?
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He wants to go home, which is fine.
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Just because somebody is helping you with your goal doesn't mean they don't have their own goal as well, right?
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Because ulterior motives all the time aren't bad things necessarily, right?
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There could be a reason for anything.
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You have to get some type of benefit out of every action that you do, right?
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And I think people think that that's a bad thing, right?
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Because in that case, the point, you know, we say we will follow in the Lord, we want to do good things, you know, because they're good and because they're right, right?
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But there's also a selfish implication to it as well because we don't do things that don't feel good, right?
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As humans, we actively shy away from things that don't feel good to us.
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So, but when we are following the Lord, we are doing the things that we feel like we're called to do, like the things we're being obedient, there is a sense of peace about it that comes with it.
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And that's a feeling that we want to get more of.
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So we're inclined to be more obedient, to do good things because we're going to get that feeling back, right?
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Right now, again, you're not doing that for that reason, but that is a part of it, right?
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The other thing that we do, there is some part of it that's going to benefit us in some way.
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Otherwise, why are we still doing it, right?
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You see what I'm saying?
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So having a ulterior motive, having a little selfish motivation isn't all bad, right?
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It is not because, again, we don't make any decisions, we don't do anything repeatedly unless there's some benefit to us in some way.
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And in Hugh's case, helping them out was his ticket back home, essentially.
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And again, though they have different goals and they may not see eye to eye on everything,
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Hugh and Osamu were able to cooperate, making them honestly one of the strongest squads.
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Because again, Osamu, Yuma, and Chika were one of the top squads anyway, despite all their flaws and things like that.
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Because of just how Osamu thinks, how Yuma performs, and then Chika's cover add Hughes to the mix.
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And then they're honestly borderline unbeatable.
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If they get together, then there's not a lot that the enemy team can do to stop them, right?
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And that's what I'm saying.
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You have to learn to work with others because it's an important life skill.
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Like I said, we can't go through this world alone.
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No matter how much some people may want to, you're always going to have to interact with somebody in some form or fashion.
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That's how society is created.
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That's how communities are formed and made and maintained.
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You have to learn to work with other people.
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Even if you don't agree with them, you can agree to disagree and move on.
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Because we're all living this life.
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We're all just trying to get through it, right?
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We're all trying to live and enjoy and experience each and every day on this fine green earth the best way that we can.
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And we don't have to make it harder for each other.
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That's not because we all know life is already hard enough as it is and it can be.
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But we don't have to butt heads over everything.
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The question I want to ask is how can we learn to work with people that we may butt heads with?
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What are some things that we can do to kind of even that out?
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I know for me personally, it was realizing that just because I may think that I'm right doesn't mean that I have to be right.
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Basically, you don't have to be right all the time.
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If you're in an argument or you're having a heated discussion with somebody and you may think you're right, your face is blue, but they just may not understand it.
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They just know when to call it quits.
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And that's not saying that you're wrong.
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It's not disproven or whatever.
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It's just, hey, at this point, we've gone past what the argument was about and now we're just wasting time.
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So we can either call it quits here, we can agree to disagree, and just move on to the next thing.
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Because at the end of the day, all we're going to end up doing is just wasting time and wasting our breath.
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And nobody wants to do that.
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And so this is one thing for me is just to learn to take a step back, let them have their opinion, you have yours.
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You can't come to an agreement.
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It's fine. Respectfully.
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Respect each other's opinions and views on things and just move on with your life.
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And another thing I've learned too is that I don't necessarily give my opinion anymore unless it's asked of me.
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Because in the past times, I've said some things that were, you know, maybe a friend's gonna find and give me about something.
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And me being the logical person that I am, I just tell them the facts, right?
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And just like, this is what this is. And that wasn't what they wanted or needed at that point in time.
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Well, it wasn't what they wanted, whether they needed it or not, that's between them and God.
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But that wasn't what they wanted at the time. So now all of a sudden, it's my fault, right?
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Sure, we've all been there. We all had that happen before. But it was like, okay.
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So now I learn to just, you know, all right, let them tell me what they need, what they want, right?
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And do I follow that all the time?
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No, because sometimes they need to hear the truth. I'm gonna tell them the truth.
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I mean, that's always gonna be the case. But now I know sometimes it's like, hey, this isn't my battle.
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So I don't need to interject myself in it, right?
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And just let them handle what they need to handle. If they ask for my help, then of course I'll be there.
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But, you know, don't interject for somebody else if they don't need it, right?
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Because at that point you're overstepping your boundary. And again, that's just me personally.
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What I've learned over the last couple of years is just to take a step back, observe, and they need my input.
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I'll give it to them. If not, then hey, I'm here when they do.
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And again, that's just part of the whole relationship dynamic of interacting with somebody else.
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You just got to know who you're talking to, who you're working with, who you're living with, who you're working with on a team, at school, at work, all these different things.
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So again, the moral of the story is just that just because somebody doesn't agree with you doesn't mean that they're the bad guy.
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It doesn't mean that they're out to get you. It doesn't mean that they're attacking you personally.
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It just means they have a different opinion, right? Unless they're blatantly attacking you verbally or whatever the case may be.
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Because we can tell the difference between somebody who's actively trying to get after us and who are just saying hurtful and mean things because they want to.
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They want to hurt us versus somebody who just said, no, I don't really agree with that.
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I don't think that's the right thing because X, Y, and Z. Those are two different things.
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Those two completely different things and ways to go about something.
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So again, I don't want us all to get so confused and so caught up in the moment.
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And when our emotions are high and thinking like, oh man, just because you disagree with me means you hate everything about my life.
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No, no, that's not what I said. I just said I don't agree with this part of it, right?
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And this is the reason why I don't. And that's it.
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That's literally it. Don't make something out of nothing, right?
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And don't make nothing out of something, right? Something's really bothering you. Something's really on your chest.
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Don't just let it pass by because all it's going to do is fester and grow.
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And then the next time it's brought up, then this one is going to get ugly and get personal when it doesn't have to be right.
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So there's a balance. There's a way to do it. You just got to find yours. Find what works for you.
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But again, not everyone's going to agree with each other, but we can all live with each other, right?
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Because we're all here right now. Let's try to make the most of it.
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And maybe just agree to disagree because again, we're not going to grow if we're never challenged, right?
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So anyway, that's all I got for you guys today.
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Thank you for tuning in to today's episode. I pray that you got what you needed out of it.
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And hopefully you learned something new about yourself.
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Feel free to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review.
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I would love reading you guys' comments and it helps me improve each and every episode.
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And as always, please remember, you are the main character of your story, and that story doesn't end until he says so.
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All right. Be blessed.
