Speaker 1:
0:00
But welcome to today's podcast replay from the Killer B Studios. Let's go ahead and dive on in. Well, let's start off with our story how this all came up. How did this topic come up? So, how many of you here have used Instacart? Anybody here Instacart fans? Okay, I see some thumbs up. Okay, yeah, all right. Yeah, yeah, see. Okay, the girls over there. All right, how many of you love Instacart? Let me ask you that Do you actually love Instacart?
Speaker 2:
0:27
Okay, yeah, okay, yeah, I actually love it, yes.
Speaker 1:
0:30
Well, instacart has. What do you say? Would you say it's changed our life?
Speaker 2:
0:36
Yeah, it has changed our life. But Met Olivia is making like what do you call that face? She's making like disgusted face about Instacart.
Speaker 3:
0:44
I have a love hate relationship with it.
Speaker 1:
0:47
Oh, explain why I'm pleased to tell.
Speaker 3:
0:50
Well, sometimes it honestly all depends on the person.
Speaker 2:
0:54
That you get.
Speaker 3:
0:55
Yeah, the shopper yeah sometimes they go out of their way to make sure that you get what you want Other times. I'm like, excuse me, that was a substitution.
Speaker 1:
1:07
Yeah, you're like you didn't even try Substitutions. Yes, yes.
Speaker 3:
1:13
An onion and an apple are not the same, oh my gosh, so that reminds me, that's pretty good.
Speaker 2:
1:19
Two times now. Oh, I just tried to make two, but you can't make two with oh, so this is kind of two. Two times I have ordered Beats and I got Radishes instead, which are very different.
Speaker 4:
1:31
I mean they look similar but they are very different.
Speaker 2:
1:34
Yes for sure I don't blame them. I think they tried, they thought it was a bean bud.
Speaker 1:
1:39
See, this is where it gets a little can get a little touchy on the conversation here, because Mrs Killer always thinks that they tried and she still tips them very well and I'm like now wait a minute, like they didn't. They obviously didn't try. You don't tip them all the time like that.
Speaker 3:
1:55
I don't know, that's just me how else I learn I know, I really want to agree with you, med Olivia.
Speaker 2:
2:00
But the thing is like the tipping is one thing, but then, like the rating, I cannot give someone less than five stars. I just can't do it. Even if they've gotten a whole bag of my groceries, I still rate them five stars and I add them as a favorite. I'm just like well.
Speaker 3:
2:16
Mrs Killer B, I know. Oh, my goodness See, look at everybody, would you? How many times?
Speaker 1:
2:19
do I have?
Speaker 3:
2:19
to tell you.
Speaker 1:
2:23
How many people here would always give a five star rating if somebody didn't bring your groceries with me? Everybody's shaking their head. No, mrs Killer B.
Speaker 2:
2:30
Oh guys, you're so much stronger than me. Okay, so let me just say this too I asked for the favorite option. Literally, I was like, please give us a favorite option. I have favorites, I'm going to choose them, I want them, and we have tons and tons of shoppers around here because we're close to a lot of stores. Yeah, so they gave us the favorite option I'm sure not because I asked. But then I like found that I could not pick someone as my favorite. So every shopper I've ever had is picked as a favorite. So now I still don't get my favorite.
Speaker 1:
3:05
I was like you don't understand how these apps work. You don't understand.
Speaker 2:
3:09
I do understand it, but I just thought what? What if these people see that I did not pick them as a favorite? Then they're going to feel bad about themselves. Not all right with that.
Speaker 3:
3:18
I just mean they need to improve. How are they supposed to get better if they're like? Well, you know what Mrs Killer V says. I'm perfect.
Speaker 2:
3:27
So actually our Instacart app is under his name, so they don't know, it's me Wait a minute, that's even more like yeah, no, I just can't.
Speaker 1:
3:37
That's why people look at me and point and laugh.
Speaker 2:
3:39
Yeah, there's plenty of other people around here who are going to give them the truth.
Speaker 1:
3:44
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3:
3:45
Now we're going to have another conversation and, like you, know you can encourage them, say I mean thank you for doing that, but you did it really not correctly.
Speaker 1:
3:57
So I encourage you, if you would like to get a five star rating or a tip, I encourage you to do better next time.
Speaker 2:
4:04
Exactly Now. You guys can do that. I got my thing and I'm sticking with it.
Speaker 1:
4:09
You need to get your own account set up, then I'm learning a lot here. I did not even realize this is where we're going down in this conversation.
Speaker 3:
4:15
Actually, she's probably saving you, mr Killer P.
Speaker 2:
4:19
Right, I'm saving his life In public. Yeah, in assassinated. Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1:
4:25
I've got that mean, but I will like I know. I'm just kidding. That is Wow, that's a shocker. I didn't know that. Well, yeah, so Instacart relationships can be a good and bad experience, I guess, going through that process with. I just want to say one more thing.
Speaker 2:
4:40
I meant to look on my app before I got on the show and I forgot about it, but I think my app says I've saved 600 hours since I have gotten Instacart.
Speaker 4:
4:49
Wow, that's kind of crazy right.
Speaker 2:
4:51
Let's not think about what I've done instead with 600 hours, but I mean there's sometimes.
Speaker 1:
4:59
Sometimes we'll order special stuff, like I can't have milk, so we'll order an oat milk creamer and order. I'm like, man, I need that and nobody, nope, there wasn't nothing there and they never even reached out to see if they had a substitute. And I'm like I bet if we drive down there it's right there. And sure enough we did. And there was like two left. I'm like, just fine, both, but it's yeah, you know, but that's part of like you know, we were talking about this Me and Mrs Killer Bee were talking about this before we came on tonight. As we were talking about what we're going to talk about tonight, the show and I said you know, there's going to come a time in our kids' lives, or their kids' kids' lives, where they're going to say grandma and grandpa, you guys used to have to go to the store and push that cart thing around Because it's like nobody does it anymore anymore. You know it's. We just sit at home and have people bring us stuff.
Speaker 2:
5:49
So I mean if you actually went to a Walmart anytime. There are tons of people there.
Speaker 1:
5:55
They're all Instacart, people, aren't they?
Speaker 2:
5:57
Well, there is a lot more than there used to be. I mean, oh gosh, that just reminded me. Guys, this is funny. I went to Walmart the other day and you know there are a lot more of the shoppers there now than there used to be and they push around these big metal carts and one literally hit me because she was going so fast out of the aisle she didn't see me and she hit me and she was like I am so sorry. And I was like it's fine, I'm good, and she's like she just like spat on along, like they're like really on a mission now, you know.
Speaker 1:
6:29
She's probably our Instacart and she probably gave her a five star rating.
Speaker 2:
6:34
No listen, instacart can't go to Walmart because Walmart has their own shoppers. So, instacart, you're not allowed to order from Walmart.
Speaker 1:
6:41
I know nothing about this stuff I know gosh.
Speaker 1:
6:44
Well, okay, let's get going on the topic here, because it was from our Instacart order where this conversation came up. They actually brought this is one of the bad sides of Instacart, to not go actually go into the store. You know, they brought all this fruit and we grabbed it and I'm like that fruit doesn't taste good. It just doesn't taste good. And Mrs Killer B was like what do you mean Tastes? Fine. Last time I was like it's not even ripe, like it's not ripe at all, it's like there's no taste to it. And through that conversation, like I don't know, has anybody here ever had fruit before that just wasn't ripe yet? Or maybe fruit that maybe was a little too ripe?
Speaker 2:
7:23
Yeah, I just recently bought a bag of Mandarin, oranges and flavorless. You can't really tell what those. That's not really anyone's fault because they all look the same on the outside. It's hard to tell unless they're green. But yeah, they're terrible, aren't they? They're not good at all? There's no taste.
Speaker 1:
7:39
Yeah, that was one of the things. I mean, there's no flavor to this thing at all.
Speaker 2:
7:43
So there are a lot of things. So there's a lot of things that your shopper should be able to tell if it's ripe or not. But oranges that's not anyone's fault you can't really tell.
Speaker 1:
7:53
Hit, and blaze, hit and blaze.
Speaker 2:
7:54
Come on up, come on down.
Speaker 4:
7:56
I wanted to say a sort of side with Mrs Killer B. I don't leave reviews unless they're a five star or more. I usually don't try to do that, so yes.
Speaker 1:
8:04
Thank you, I sort of think. If it's not a five star, do you not leave a review?
Speaker 4:
8:09
Usually, yeah, I don't like to leave bad reviews.
Speaker 1:
8:11
See, she just always gives a good review, no matter what.
Speaker 2:
8:13
Listen, it doesn't matter. He's on my side and we're just leaving it at that.
Speaker 4:
8:19
But as far as fruit, I always drive you crazy out by bananas. One day they're green, they're green, and then the next day they're over ripe.
Speaker 2:
8:27
I'm like yeah, I miss the sweet spot. I know that's a really hard one these days.
Speaker 1:
8:31
Yeah, this is a tough one. That is a tough one. Thanks for sharing that.
Speaker 2:
8:34
Speaking of bananas, I bought bananas from Aldi and they never ripened. They never did. They stayed green the whole time until I opened one. They're still green on the outside, but they're black on the inside, so I don't know how that is even possible, but that is what happened.
Speaker 1:
8:50
Good soldiers coming down. Go ahead, good soldier.
Speaker 2:
8:52
I bet he has an answer for us. Hey, good soldier.
Speaker 5:
8:55
I bought a bag of apples and to this day I can't tell you what happened or why, but they taste it just like chalk. Oh, remember the old days when you used to clear the chalk yeah yeah right.
Speaker 3:
9:11
Just together.
Speaker 5:
9:11
Yeah they taste it like chalk. They had like no Moisture in the middle. All Wow, I have no idea. I actually Do. We just threw the whole bag in the garbage. We couldn't figure anything out and everybody started cutting them open. Have no idea what happened.
Speaker 1:
9:30
That is we're.
Speaker 2:
9:31
Hmm, I hope that never happens to you again. Good soldier.
Speaker 5:
9:35
Well, I hope it never happens to you.
Speaker 1:
9:40
Maybe, some of those people I didn't deserve a five-star. It could happen to Let me just shake it her head. No, there she's like no.
Speaker 3:
9:53
Killer B gave me a two Wow, wow limit.
Speaker 2:
9:59
So she's being very careful.
Speaker 4:
10:01
Love like looking over there and Dean?
Speaker 2:
10:03
or am that Olivia shaking her head, like you know, like so much judgment coming from that corner.
Speaker 1:
10:09
Well, what's interesting is, as we were, as this happened, like this really is something that did happen here Recently and we were talking about it, about the fruit not being ripe. I'm like man, they could like it's hard to even get fruit in season anymore. It's like they pick everything so early and then we get in it's not even close to being ripe and it's just not the same. And through that conversation, they kind of led to us talking about how, like, how often do we do that in life, like not just in picking groceries, but even in life when it comes to Things that we want, and we push like I know I've pushed for things, things.
Speaker 1:
10:44
I'm like I want this to happen, I want this to happen, and I push and push, push until it finally happens. And then it happens. And then I regret that it happens because I'm like this isn't what I thought it was gonna be like, and then I'm complaining. But really what it come down to is I pushed for something and it wasn't season for yet, it wasn't time for that to happen, but I made it happen and then I regretted it and we were talking about that like what. This might be a good thing to talk about it. We'll trick everybody in with our insta cart talk and then we'll transition.
Speaker 2:
11:12
So We'll get serious. We'll get serious.
Speaker 1:
11:17
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
11:17
I didn't mean to, I don't know, I did that so that's the transition into the serious side of this conversation. So with that, I would love to ask Mrs Killer B and meta Olivia I want to get your guys as thoughts on something I want to ask you guys. Both this question and Mrs Killer B will go first with you and then you can hand it over to meta Olivia Is there a time that you would like to share? Actually, I'm not Share a time. I'm gonna ask you if you want to share. No, is there time? Is there a time in your life no choice when you, when you've rushed into something that led to regret?
Speaker 2:
11:52
Because I don't know the ages of everyone here. I'm gonna be discreet in what I say here. What I regret rushing into is when I was a teenager and I thought I was ready for adult relationships. And you know, when I was 16, 17, I thought I was done.
Speaker 2:
12:12
Growing up I was like, wow, I'm an adult, like I know exactly what's going on in life. You know, no one could tell me anything. This is why you know, this is what happens to you. When you're a know-it-all as a teenager, you get a know-it-all as a child. It's just the truth, that's what happens and you know. So now I have to Learn how to deal with that. But that's what happened is like no one could tell me anything, because I already knew exactly what I was gonna do with my life. So when I was ready to move on to adult relationships, I did, and I regret that because I had no idea what I was doing. I had no idea what impact it would make on me Emotionally, you know, and so I would just say, if there's anyone here who finds themselves in that situation, it doesn't hurt to wait, it doesn't hurt to wait longer and make sure that you're ready and you're in the right place before you Grow up too fast, you know.
Speaker 1:
13:09
I still have a hard time. I think that at 44 that I can go sit in with adult conversations and I still get kicked out. So it's still not made it there. But yeah, that's, that's a really good, that's a really good thought. Well, thanks for sharing that, mrs Klaiby. How about you Meadow Olivia?
Speaker 3:
13:27
I can't think of anything like in particular that actually happened, but there's been so many times where I was like mad at God that Something I wanted to happen didn't but, I was able to see if it did happen, but I would have really regretted that it did happen of just like you know, wanting a certain job At a particular time, or wanting to marry someone that I thought was the person I was supposed to marry and wasn't, and being mad that it didn't work out, and like now I'm like, oh my gosh, that would have been horrendous.
Speaker 3:
14:09
So, yeah, I just have you know tons and tons of those, but none that I can think of that I actually did, where I was like, oh man, I regret doing that.
Speaker 2:
14:20
So yeah, so really you were saved from a lot of regrets because you know things like happened or whatever. But then you got to see you know a different perspective once it was passed and you're like, oh, if that would have happened.
Speaker 3:
14:34
Yeah yeah, and while it was happening, I was, you know, not happy, like I was mad and I'm like this isn't fair, this is ridiculous. Why can't I have what I want, like that kind of thing? So, even you know, if it doesn't happen, I still learned a lot. But, yeah, without actually doing it, if that makes sense.
Speaker 2:
14:59
Yeah, yeah, that's good. That sounds like a lot of like God's provision for you, like saving you from Regrets, really yeah.
Speaker 3:
15:07
Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1:
15:08
I could think of one regret I'm out of love you for you what?
Speaker 3:
15:13
I find the one one.
Speaker 1:
15:15
It was that it was that pirate hack, because you asked me how do I get it off? I can't get it off, and you put it on real quickly. You made a decision and you came in and you couldn't get rid of it. So nobody listening to the podcast can see it. But yeah, she's got to take a picture and make sure we post it with it. Well, okay, I would love to ask everybody here how many of you have ever felt the pressure to make something happen quickly? Has anybody here ever felt that pressure before? Would anybody care to come down here and just share it? Give us like, share your experience with us as well. It's easy to kind of fall into that mindset of jumping into feeling rushed because of the really in the fast paced world that we're in. Yeah, sure.
Speaker 1:
15:57
There's a lot of pressure there. So I would love to know from you, mrs Killer Bee, is there anything that you felt like the pressure, like that from the pressure of just life, that you feel like you find yourself jumping and doing some things too soon when really you could step back and really process that, and what are some ways that maybe you might, or you're learning how you can make room to be a little bit more patient, If that makes sense.
Speaker 2:
16:22
So I would say that one way I felt pressured so like right now I'm doing kind of like a side business of cooking and cleaning for people in their homes and I have felt the pressure occasionally to take on more clients than I really actually want to handle, and part of that, I think, comes from like, part of it comes from like oh well, if I take one more client, then that's this much more money which will help us. So that's part of it. But another part, and even bigger part, is I don't want to say no to people. So you know, through my life, through different times, I've had to learn this lesson again and again.
Speaker 2:
17:08
Where you know, I think probably when, when Ashton was a little kid, so probably 15 years ago I had to learn to say no and I got really good at it and I did much better at managing my time and just balancing better. And then it just seems like you know, every five years I fall back into it again, where I have to learn the lesson again and that's where I am right now is like I'm not saying no as often as I should and I'm not putting the most important things first so that you know the other things kind of fall in line. So that's where I feel tempted to kind of like, make things happen is I'm like I'm not going to stop and take the time to think through this and make the right decision. I'm just going to do it, get it done and be done, and then I'll think about that later. So that's kind of where I feel the pressure right now is that you know, I need to stop and think about things before I give people answers.
Speaker 2:
18:05
And I'll just think I'll handle this later.
Speaker 1:
18:07
I think that's the thing, like even feeling the pressure to not say no. It's always. It's something I've learned to try to help remind myself, like if I'm saying yes to everybody, I'm saying no to somebody yeah, I'm the one that taught you that actually I know and but it's really.
Speaker 2:
18:26
I need to apply it again.
Speaker 1:
18:27
I love you. Just once I hit that button. So bad, but it is. It's so true, like, because I mean, if we are saying yes to everybody, you're saying no to somebody. So it's, you can say, I don't want to say no to somebody, you don't like saying no, but you you're going to have to say no to somebody, and it might be somebody that really matters more in your life as well. Exactly, let me ask you this what are some ways that you've started to maybe make room, to be patient and think about things?
Speaker 1:
18:52
a little bit more before making a decision.
Speaker 3:
18:55
Yeah, and that sounds like what, exactly what I was thinking? I'm like, oh, I could have said like things I rushed into that. You know I do regret, which I'm trying to do better at, is I want to know things. So, for example, if someone's like we have to have a conversation like you know, even you and I, Mr Killer B and work, if something's going on like I want to have the conversation now and talk it out, but it's probably better to process and think about things before speaking, or you know that, but I'm like I need to get this done right now. And then a lot of times, I say things that I regret saying.
Speaker 1:
19:38
Yeah, yeah, that makes sense, that makes sense.
Speaker 2:
19:41
I can see that definitely in relationships, Like sometimes things happen and you're like we need to talk about this right, this minute. But then if you were to really process it you know I really appreciate what you're saying there, because I feel like I do that a lot, Like I need to tell you right now, like why that bothered me, when if I would have waited like even you know 15 minutes, I would have felt a little, you know, more calm about it.
Speaker 1:
20:05
You're really. This is something that's very interesting about. Mrs Killer B is actually one of the other questions that I had was has anyone here maybe you guys can let us know by throwing some confetti too has anyone here ever experienced a strain in a relationship due to rushing into decisions or actions? Has anybody experienced that before? Yeah, sue's, and you know. What's interesting, mrs Killer B, is you're sharing that about how, like you know, you kind of want to rush in sometimes and get that answer, but she's very patient with our son, which should be like he needs time and she's always been with that with him Like he needs time alone, he needs time to process it. And I'm like, no, we need to handle this now. And she's like, no, you need to let him process it. And I'm like, oh, okay, but he does.
Speaker 2:
20:50
We've learned that he does need that time. He does need that time. Yeah, and I don't know if anybody else feels like this. If you have children, like, do you find sometimes that you're more patient with your children than you are with your spouse, or vice versa maybe?
Speaker 1:
21:05
People has thrown her hands up. She's throwing some confetti.
Speaker 2:
21:08
I know I don't know Total double standard, but I'm definitely guilty of it.
Speaker 5:
21:12
We have Dolo hey, Dolo how y'all doing.
Speaker 4:
21:14
How are you doing?
Speaker 1:
21:16
I love the sweater too.
Speaker 3:
21:18
Thank you.
Speaker 4:
21:18
Yeah, I just wanted to say I rush to work every day and I rush home I get the rush game hard part.
Speaker 1:
21:26
I do get the rush game hard part. This never feels like you're quite getting there on time.
Speaker 4:
21:32
We're rushing to get there and the place is going nowhere.
Speaker 1:
21:35
Oh man, that's pretty deep. That's, yeah, I haven't really think about that. Thank you, dolo. There's a lot of things that, wow. That's a good question to be asking ourselves. A lot, too, I think we're rushing in in life and is it taking us where we are wanting to go? So, mrs Clareed, do you have, mrs Clareed or Mettalivie, do you guys have anything to add about this topic of rushing into things?
Speaker 3:
22:24
Oh, I was just going to ask you guys a question back. Good for you, Since you both said you've rushed into things and have had some regrets. Have you learned things through those regrets though?
Speaker 2:
22:37
Oh, absolutely, yes, yeah, I can't think of a single thing in my life that I regret that I didn't learn a lesson from definitely. What about you?
Speaker 1:
22:46
I would say that you know something that and I know some of you here if some of you here are Christians, I would say, probably this might be something that you might be able to relate to. But for myself, one of the things that I was raised and heard a lot was God told me to do this. God told me to do that. God said, god said and I was raised up hearing that a lot. So then what I didn't realize is to later, through maturing in my own life and my own walk, that I realized that there's a scripture in the Bible about not taking the Lord's name in vain.
Speaker 1:
23:25
And what God started to show me was, if you say I said that you're supposed to do this, you're kind of basically trying to put a seal on something saying I don't want you to say no, I don't want you to disagree with it, because God said, and you put a stamp on it, though you really ask yourself did God really tell you that, or is it something that you're just this is something you really want to do, because putting God's name on it almost like a seal is using his name in vain as well, and that was something I had to learn, and now it's like a lot. I'm really careful. When I say, well, god told me this, or God said this for me to do, and because it really puts everybody in place, it's like, well, don't argue with it, mrs Kelly. What are you going to say if I say, well, god told me to do this, well, okay.
Speaker 1:
24:08
Yeah exactly I'm going to go over here because I ain't going to mess with that. That's what it kind of does, so that's one thing that I've learned for sure. I'd like to ask does anyone here have a story where timing was crucial and that that rushing in could have been a huge mistake, like it could have really affected your life?
Speaker 2:
24:28
Does anybody have an example about that? And I did not even think about that till just now. So some of you might have heard us tell our story before where Mr Killer Bee andI actually went to the same high school, but I only remember meeting him like once early on in high school and he was two years older than me, but we talk about all the time. Well, okay, I should also say that we didn't start dating until after my sophomore year of college, so that was, you know, several years after we graduated, obviously, and so that's when we, like, really met and started talking and dating and all that. So we talk about it a lot how, if we would have actually started dating in high school, we definitely would not have made it because of just the different ways that we were in high school and the different things that were going on, and you know, we just had different values and things at that time, and so we talk about that all the time.
Speaker 2:
25:26
So it's it's really a beautiful thought, if you think about it, that something can be right for you, but not the right time. So you have to wait for the right thing and the right time. You know God's timing.
Speaker 2:
25:39
If you're a Christian, you know that's the way we look at it, and so it's just. I just thought of that when you said that timing was crucial for us, because had we dated in high school, we would not know each other now.
Speaker 1:
25:51
How many people here, if you want to throw a confetti, would say that you've at some point. Maybe that's something that you've done in written. It comes to a relationship Like I think relationships is one of the things that was easy for me to rush because I wanted to have a relationship with someone that you know cared about me and stuff Like that was something I desired. So anybody else here can relate to that in some way.
Speaker 1:
26:20
Yeah, definitely you. Okay, well, this is an interesting story and I know we'll get ready to wrap it up here too, but there was a. There's a show that we're watching. What's that show called? Do you remember?
Speaker 2:
26:30
It's called Special Forces World's Hardest Test, or something like that.
Speaker 1:
26:35
It's like the world's longest TV show title too. I didn't realize that, and if you guys haven't seen this, go it's on, it's on a, it's on Hulu, hulu.
Speaker 2:
26:44
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
26:45
So just look up Special Forces, it's like a reality show.
Speaker 2:
26:48
Yeah, so it's celebrities are going through what's basically like a special forces boot camp type thing. Yeah, to see you know how tough they are, how you know how they can, if they could actually make it in special forces training, that's so interesting. It is such a good show, yeah, which is very interesting because I cry every single time.
Speaker 1:
27:08
Yeah, mrs Killer Bee is not one of those people that usually, when I put it on, I thought she's gonna watch one episode. I'm gonna get to watch this show by myself and she's like cooking or something, no problem. Yeah, she's like every night she's like let's watch that show, let's watch that show and I'm like, are you serious, Can we watch something else? Like I want to watch that show. I'm like, all right, wow, she's really, she's all in on it. But what is interesting in the show is there's a very wide range of celebrities, people that you would think like this person is gonna go really far, and people are like they're not gonna last long and you will be surprised of you know what happens. I don't want to give away a lot, in case you watch it?
Speaker 2:
27:43
No, don't give away anything. I was like we can just give them a sampling. There's NFL players, there's a basketball players. Just try. What is the basketball? I cannot think right now what it's called. What is the basketball league? Nba?
Speaker 3:
27:56
NBA, nba I was thinking NBC.
Speaker 2:
27:59
I was like I know that's not right NBC. There's Olympians, there's a beauty queen, there's a professional soccer players, there's a Bachelorettes.
Speaker 4:
28:08
Bachelorettes yeah.
Speaker 2:
28:09
There's actors and all kinds. I mean just baseball players. Oh yeah, baseball players, that's great.
Speaker 1:
28:18
So they have this wide range of, again, like they're athletic, like they're athletic. Some of them are athletes, some of them are not. But there's one part in the show where they all had to stand on this boat and those boats go in full speed and basically they have to jump out of the boat and grab this little floating like buoy thing and when they grab that there's a chopper, it's a black cop chopper flying in which, ladyhawk, you'd love that. This black cop chopper comes flying in and they drop a rope and this person has to grab that rope and try to climb up into the chopper. And it's crazy because the water is going nuts In the ocean, yeah, in the ocean. Yeah, and all this, you know the helicopter and all that stuff. It's insane to see what happens. But here comes the NBA person. You're like this NBA person is going to knock this out of the ballpark, right? I mean, even though he plays basketball Out of the basketball park.
Speaker 1:
29:14
Yeah, he's going to slam, dunk this. That's what you're thinking. Well, what happened was, you know, they're training them because in a real life situation they said this could be like a rescue mission, where you need to get out and if you don't make it up that rope, your life's over, like you're not going to live. So they get one shot. So this guy jumps out, grabs the buoy and he is so much in a rush, the helicopters come in, they drop the rope, but he doesn't wait for the rope to get close to him, he just let's go and start swimming over to it. And as soon as he did that, they said he's not going to make it. Did you see what he just did? He left, he went, he's swimming towards the rope, he's going to use all his energy to get to that rope and he's not even going to make it up.
Speaker 1:
29:54
And that's exactly what happened. I mean, he barely made it up a little bit, and they actually was. It got to a pretty scary state. It got to a pretty scary situation because he went under and he wasn't coming back up. So they had to send diverge from the helicopter down to go check him out. But you know, I'm like man. I can totally relate to that and you know, not all the ways are like life threatening. But how many times have I spent so much energy trying to get to something and I've wasted all that energy. If I would have just waited till it was the right time to you know that God had brought it into my life instead of wasting all that energy.
Speaker 2:
30:26
So it's so hard because, you know, I think I don't think social media has done us any favors when it comes to seeing the stages that other people are in, and then we're like, well, I'm ready for that stage too, let's make it happen. And you know, not everybody's stage is right for us at this point and you know you can rush yourself in the lots of places. I mean, I know someone in particular who was ready to have a baby and she knew that her boys, her boyfriend, was not the person that she should have been having children with. But she did some things and she made it happen and then they ended up breaking up and, you know, then she raised her baby on her own. So it's like, you know, you can say I want this and I'm going to make it happen, but that doesn't mean it's the right thing to do. You know it's not going to be the best situation if it's not the right time for you to actually have that, even if it's a blessing, like a baby. You know it's timing is everything.
Speaker 1:
31:24
Timing. Well, I mean, it is like. I mean, we know fruit is good for us, right? We know fruit is good for us if we're going to eat healthy, but if we pick it too early, it's just not going to taste the same. It's not going to taste same.
Speaker 2:
31:35
I guess it's really not bad for you, though, so actually, well, I wouldn't say it's bad for you, but it's not as good for you because the ripening.
Speaker 2:
31:44
The final ripening stage of fruit is when all of the very best like antioxidants are formed. You know there's all sorts of things in perfectly ripe fruit that are cancer fighting and good for your blood sugar like good for a lot of things. But if you don't let it get to that final ripen stage and really they say it should ripen on the tree, so of course it's very hard to get fruit like that from a grocery store. They have to pick it early so it's not at its full nutritional potential because it was picked too early. So yeah, I'm glad you brought that up, because I forgot that.
Speaker 1:
32:16
Yeah, I learned about that.
Speaker 2:
32:17
It's not as good for you.
Speaker 1:
32:21
And, as we get ready to wrap up, one of the things I would encourage people to be thinking about, too, is if you are a Christian, if that's something that you're going through and you're trusting in God, that's something that I feel like. For me, I've had to start learning more and more through, like, my time of reflection, of like do I really trust him to go at his speed? Do I really trust him knowing that I don't know his speed in this situation, but I'm going to be listening to him, talking to him and waiting for him to help me know this is the right time, instead of trying to make things happen on my own.
